What is an orgasm?

What is an orgasm? There’s not a singular and widely agreed-upon definition of orgasm. One operating definition of orgasm is that it’s a pleasurable release of sexual tension.

What causes an orgasm?

“An orgasm is caused by the buildup of tension in the nerve cells,” explains Neal. When that tension releases, you can experience an orgasm.

“You can think of an orgasm as being caused by an immense amount of pleasure in the nerve endings reaching a point of overwhelm,” she says.

Is there a difference between ‘male’ and ‘female’ orgasms?
“All orgasms are similar, and all orgasms are slightly different,” says Neal.

People who have a vulva and vagina typically experience orgasms that are longer lasting (approximately 20 to 35 seconds), while people who have a penis usually orgasm more quickly (usually under 15 seconds).

Neal adds that it’s important to remember that ejaculation and orgasm are different.

“Male orgasm and male ejaculation are two different biological processes that need not happen concurrently,” she says. “Many penis owners are able to reach orgasm without ejaculating, and report these orgasms as being similar to the orgasms a vagina owner has.”

How many times can a female orgasm in a row?

People with vaginas can have multiple orgasms in a single session. This typically ranges from 1-5 times, but some people may report having a dozen or more orgasms.

The bottom line
The above orgasm explanations are great starting points, but sex doesn’t have a manual. That’s why exploring in the moment and learning what your body loves (and doesn’t love) is absolutely key.

And remember: Not all sex requires an orgasm, and orgasms don’t mean the sex is great.

Bodies are different. Pleasure is different. Orgasms are different. And the path it takes to get there is all about experimenting, communicating, and trying again.

Allow yourself to soak in the sensations of the pleasure process just as much, or even more than, the finale.