If you have a penis in front of your mouth and are wondering what to do, here’s some secret wisdom from experts on how to give a truly stellar Blow Job.

Get handsy.

Anything you can do with your mouth and tongue, you can do with your hands, with greater flexibility and dexterity. Play with their balls, stroke their shaft with two hands, press your thumb onto their perineum (the area between their balls and anus) as they are having an orgasm.

Moisturize!

No one likes dry rub and friction during a blow job, so make sure that you use moist saliva or have edible lube on hand to help you easily slide your mouth up, down, and around him.

Google “frenulum.”

Appreciate the frenulum. The frenulum is the most sensitive part along with the head of the cock so give those parts attention by flicking your tongue.

Try the “granny mouth.”

Pull your lips into your mouth. This creates a tight suction feel as you move up and down.

Just add water.

Take a big sip of water and let a little dribble out onto their penis. Hold some water in your mouth as they enter. This will help you start out with a wet mouth and incorporate some temperature play.

Look lustfully into their eyes.

Make eye contact throughout, and look up at them with their penis in your mouth. It’s also a sexy way to check in and see the lust in their eyes.

Watch yourselves.

Kneel in front of a full-length mirror while your partner stands and watches. This position creates the perfect angle for deep throating. And if you’re into it, try playing up the gagging and choking sounds a bit for your partner’s auditory pleasure.

If you aren’t into the BJs that’s totally fine—don’t do it! However, if you’re game to try but need some adjustments/help, here are some ideas if you don’t know wtf to do with your tongue, or if you don’t like swallowing or deep throating or are looking for some go-to moves to make them lose it.

The B (and P) Job

The B (and P) Job

If your partner is a lover of the P-spot, don’t leave that unattended.“Your partner might want a stable or vibrating insert that you can manoeuvre while you are blowing them. Maybe a finger, firm, or gentle licking will give them what they crave. If this is the case, go from ass to P-spot, to testicles, to cock.” Give yourself some pleasure as well by sitting on a vibrator.

The Loveseat Wishbone

The Loveseat Wishbone

Put your legs over the back of a sturdy sofa or loveseat and hang upside down while your partner kneels in front of the sofa. “This position is such a winner because it aligns the direction of the giver’s throat with the natural direction of the erection. It’s very easy to deep throat in this position.

The Bend Over and Blow

The Bend Over and Blow

Aspiring Dominants, take note: this position is all about control. While your partner lies on their back, stand beside the bed with your legs hip-width apart and bend over to take them in your mouth. Maximize the power dynamic by keeping your clothes on while they lie in front of you naked and vulnerable. “Variations include tying your partner to the headboard, gagging them, tickling their feet, or placing a firm hand over their face while you blow their junk and mind. This is an ideal time to break out your panty vibe, allowing your partner to operate the remote only when they’ve been very, very good.”

The Duck and Cover

The Duck and Cover

If don’t like to swallow, set expectations in a stealthy and not unkind way by saying something like “I want you to orgasm on my…” whatever, boobs, stomach, left elbow. Keep the communication going throughout (watch their body, listen to their breathing, just ask how close they are, etc…) to make sure their Life Force goes where you want it to. For this, try a more traditional position so you can help direct the flow. (A wearable vibrator will put this position over the top for you.)

The Face Fuck

The Face Fuck

For a more hard-core, power dynamics situation, your partner can straddle your face and, basically, give themselves a blowjob by thrusting into your mouth. If this is too much-and it totally can be!–curl your hand around their shaft as a buffer to control how deep they go. With the other hand, you can masturbate or use a toy (BTW: A thrusting toy is great here ’cause it kinda mirrors what’s going on with your mouth).

“Lier’s” Poker

"Lier's" Poker

If you are feeling lazy yet generous, bring the task at hand to you by sitting back on a stack of pillows. Your mouth attends to the BJ-ing while your hands are free to touch yourself or, even easier, lie back and let a toy handle you.

The Prop Engine

The Prop Engine

Use the power of physics and prop a largish vibrator between a mattress and box springs or the cushion and frame of a soft couch or chair. The toy will tend to you (thrusting against it is sexy too) and you’ll have your hands free to add to that glorious on-your-knees BJ you’re giving.

The Hump and Blow

The Hump and Blow

If you’re a humper, prop a pillow between your legs, slip a lubed hand down between your legs and slide back and forth over it as you suck on him. If you need more power, invest in a toy mount that will hold a Magic Wand or DIY it and stick a l’il something between two pillows, pressing them together with your knees.

The Yin Yang Edge

The Yin Yang Edge

Avoid that weird 69 zone where you’re simultaneously giving and receiving yet not doing either properly by trading off. Torture him by bringing him just to the brink of orgasm then switch. (High fives optional.) Lie in a sideways 69 position so that when the other person cuts you off, you barely have to move to immediately translate all your passion back to them via your mouth.

The Double-Down

The Double-Down

Have him stand and strip his pants off. Kneel before him, kissing your way up his inner thigh giving him time to appreciate the always-glorious male moment of “Oh my god, this gorgeous woman is about to suck my dick!” As you go down on him, ride gently on a dildo or press a vibrator against yourself. You may want to look into a rabbit-style dildo vibe with an attached part that buzzes against your clit, if you’re into both internal and external stimulation.

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